Eleanor Wildy Counselling and Psychotherapy Service
Counselling in Horsham

Hello and welcome, my name is Eleanor and I am a fully qualified and experienced Integrative counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice. I work with a wide range of issues including depression, anxiety, bereavement, abuse and trauma.

I provide face to face and online (via Zoom) counselling sessions. If you are worried about having a session online please make sure that you have a confidential space, where you won't be disturbed or overheard. I do suggest you put a radio or speaker outside your door when you have your counselling session. Please contact me for further details about online counselling, or look at https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/online-counselling.html

My practice is at the New Street Clinic, 20 New Street, Horsham, West Sussex. RH13 5DU. The clinic is a 10 minute walk from Horsham town centre. The clinic not only provides counselling and psychotherapy but also other complementary therapies such as osteopathy, acupuncture and Bowen therapy.

Counselling and psychotherapy can help alleviate distress, to learn to be less critical and punishing towards oneself as well as understand ourselves better and create a different future. Depression and anxiety can rob us of the nice and enjoyable moments in our lives as it can feel overwhelming, counselling can help you work through the distress and feel more grounded.

As a counsellor and psychotherapist I am committed to providing a safe, confidential and non-judgmental counselling service.

People seek counselling and psychotherapy for all sorts of reasons....you are not on your own.
When we realise we want to feel differently and want to do something about it, it is courageous and is a big step towards feeling better about yourself and your life. Our mental health also impacts our physical health, such as aches and pains, headaches and stomach problems. It is hard work when you feel down, stressed or depressed and can sap your energy. You may experience negative thoughts towards yourself or others, feel angry or experience disturbances in your sleep. Your personal and/or professional relationships can become distant or feel insecure.
It's never too late to seek help....you may feel that it will never get better but in my experience with the right support, it can change.

Anxiety and Stress can feel like an everyday occurrence as our lives are becoming busier and more demanding....there are pressures to not to be late with schedules or to get home on time as family life can also feel the strain. We can become worried about the 'what if's'.... What if it doesn't go well? What if they don't like it? This can lead to anxiety and stress feeling like its taking over and interfering with our lives. It can impact how we feel about ourselves (not feeling a good enough person) and other relationships, as well as impacting our eating habits and sleep. Stress and Anxiety can also be with us from childhood, which can result in feeling vulnerable and trapped. How it can be better? Talking about it helps release what is happening to you instead of it staying in your head, going around and around getting bigger. Over time as you talk about it, the distress will start to decrease and you will feel calmer about it. I will suggest coping skills and self-care ideas that you can do at home and work to help you feel calmer. Just knowing that you've been heard, believed and not judged can feel such a relief.

Depression can be invasive and very difficult to live with. It can impact our everyday lives and can make the smallest of tasks such as getting out of bed or making a drink a daunting and exhausting experience. Finding a good counsellor or psychotherapist can really help, as you are encouraged to talk about what it is like for you as well as finding ways to alleviate your distress. Together we will explore what could be behind the depression....what's driving it?

Loss doesn't necessarily mean death. The feeling of loss can be felt in many areas of our lives. Trauma and neglect in childhood can result in children missing out of a 'healthy and loving childhood'. This can feel like a loss, so to grieve and be angry for what didn't happen can be helpful. Accidents and life changing events can leave us with feelings of loss of 'what won't come to be' in the future. When we start our lives we have an expectation for ourselves and others... going to school, making friends, falling in love, possible having children, getting a job and becoming independent. This may not happen for everyone who wants it and it may feel like a loss or bereavement.

Loss and Bereavement of a loved one can be one of the most painful experiences we can endure. Yes we all know it will happen but it doesn't necessarily make it easier. Sometimes we can make assumptions on how we are 'meant' to feel, or to somehow be 'over it' by now. We can be worried about talking to friends or family about it in case they don't understand or fear that they're are bored of hearing it. Talking to a counsellor can help you grieve for your loss and for your loss to be heard.

I provide individual (not couples counselling currently) counselling and psychotherapy for men and women over 18yrs on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling them to enhance their life and to live it more fully.

• Depression
• Feelings of Shame
• Sadness, feeling stuck, lonely
• Stress and Anxiety
• Adult Trauma such as being involved in an accident or becoming a victim of crime
• Childhood Trauma, Neglect, Abuse and Issues
• Self Harm which can include cutting, skin picking, hair pulling, drinking too much alcohol
• Loss and Bereavement
• The impact of Covid 19
• Anger and Anger Management
• Rage, feeling out of control
• Abusive Relationships
• Controlling Relationships
• Commitment issues
• Repeating unhelpful relationship patterns
• Relationship Issues such as relationship breakdown and affairs
• Family issues
• Being a Carer
• Being the Sibling or Child of the 'Cared For'
• Living with a person who has mental health issues
• Bullying
• Work Related Issues such as Stress, Redundancy and Retirement
• Learning Difficulties
• Low Self-Esteem and Confidence Issues
• Disability, Serious/Debilitating Illness or Injury
• Unhealthy or Negative Body Image

   

These are some of the issues I can work with, if there is an issue that isn't listed please feel free to ask whether I am able to help you further or to discuss other counsellors or avenues of support that may be available.

You may want to visit the Counselling Directory Website, British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) for other qualified counsellors available in Horsham and the surrounding areas.

The New Street Clinic, 20 New Street, Horsham RH13 5DU which is walking distance from Horsham Train Station. The clinic is a 10 minute walk from Horsham town centre.
My counselling practice is within easy reach of Horsham RH12, RH13, Broadbridge Heath, Southwater, Faygate, Rusper, Ifield, Three Bridges, Gatwick, Crawley, Redhill, Reigate, Dorking, Leatherhead, Billingshurst, Christs Hospital, Pulborough, Barnham, 30 mins from Brighton. There is a regular train service from Ifield, Billingshurst, Christs Hospital, Pulborough, Barnham, Crawley, Three Bridges, Gatwick, Redhill, Reigate, Dorking and Leatherhead to Horsham. There is also a good bus service to Horsham, including the No23 from Crawley and the No93 from Dorking